While many agree that success is subjective, there is a general consensus that it involves financial stability, enjoying your job and being relatively happy in life. To ensure that you have all three, there are five things you must make sure you avoid doing.

The truth is that you are likely doing at least one of these and it is serving as a roadblock to you being successful. Identifying these and then being honest about whether or not you do them is the first step in eliminating anything that is standing in your way.

They Don't Allow Others to Define Their Success

Success is a word that means different things for different people. You have to define what success is to you and run with it! Do not let someone else tell you whether or not your idea of success is untrue, inaccurate, or impossible.

For example, many people see success purely from a financial place, but others see this as only a piece of the pie. In fact, many see simple financial stability as successful where others feel they need to be wealthy to be successful.

Start out by writing down exactly what you need to accomplish in order to feel successful. Remember that there is no wrong answer since you are just going by what you need in your life to feel as though you have achieved success.

In addition to your financial goals, you also want to make note of whether or not you are satisfied with your job, health, and level of happiness.

They Question Or Analyze Everything Before Accepting Any Truths

Those who are successful are critical thinkers and they analyze and question all new information that is presented to them. Throughout their questioning and analyzing, they only explore credible sources and usually do in-depth research. It is important to be skeptical and seek out your own answers.

This trait is especially critical when it comes to anything related to your ability to be happy and stable. You also have to work to make sure that any biases you have don't rule you or your decision-making.

This does not mean that you dismiss everyone and everything. It simply means that you know what is important and you work to ensure that you know the truth about these things.

They Don't Let Anyone Dictate Their Major Life Decisions

You cannot take a back seat to the major decisions in your life if you expect to be successful. You can take the opinions of your family and friends into consideration, but ultimately, the decision must be one that you came do.

When you are making important decisions, you have to know what will leave you fulfilled and you should also listen to your intuition. There are times when the decision you make is one that might not make other people happy and this is okay.

A good example is pursuing a degree in a field you are not excited about, but you do it because it is a secure field. For example, nursing is an excellent profession with a wealth of career opportunities. However, if your heart is in a different profession or career, you have to make the decision to pursue that career and be confident in your decision.

This may pose several challenges that most people might not want to take on. However, at the end of the day, you have to be willing to do what is going to make YOU happy. You are the one who has to live with your decisions.

When Proven Wrong, They Abandon Those Beliefs

Everyone has beliefs that they want to cling to even when they know that these beliefs are wrong. Being able to accept that you are wrong and change your mind in light of new evidence is critical to being successful in all areas of life.

This ultimately comes down to your ability to change as it becomes necessary. Change is scary, but it is a critical part of success. Think about the beliefs that you hold that you know are not true. Work toward improving your adaptability so that you can work toward letting them go.

As you start changing your mind about these things and embracing the truth, you will find that you are happier and that certain things start to come easier to you. This is often regarded as one of the hardest aspects of success, but it is also one of the most important and powerful.

They Don't Over Think Personal Insults and Criticisms

Everyone gets criticized and there are times when it is necessary and times it is not. Everyone has personal insults thrown their way. How you cope with it will have a major impact on your ability to achieve success. 

When it comes to criticism, there is constructive criticism and unjust criticism. Regardless of the type you receive, you have to react in a way that shows acceptance. This does not mean that you are weak. In fact, it shows that you have a high level of emotional intelligence, a trait that all successful people have.

When it comes to personal insults, these are never necessary, but they do happen. Being able to handle them shows an even higher level of emotional stability. When this situation arises, simply walk away and don't take them personally even though they are.

Now you know about the five things that successful people never do, take a little time to evaluate your habits. Make sure that when you are really looking at your habits and reflecting on your way of doing things that you are fully honest.

It is critical that you know exactly what is standing in your way so that you can make the necessary changes and start to realize your full potential. Now, removing these roadblocks will not lead to success overnight, but you will see a noticeable difference in your ability to meet goals and achieve ultimate success.

All the best, 

Dr. Antwala